In the beginning was a harmonious world. Everything was in its right state and defined for a quality living. Everyone and everything knew its purpose and were rightfully used in the context of their definition. Nothing was abused.
Man was defined as a spirit with a soul, and lives in a body, as the image of God and after God’s likeness to rule the world with power, to manage all the affairs of the earth. And this has always been what men are known for – The Spiritual heads, the bold and backbone of life, after God.
The trees and the animals were no different. The sun and the moon where even not left out of the definition because they were not just made, they existed for a purpose. But till then, God was still not satisfied. He realized, that His creation was not totally defined without a woman. He realized, that there was nothing life could thrive on its liveliness and its amazing creativity.Then carefully, Eve was formed.
Her skin so toned, her voice cunningly soft, her eyes so tender and the intelligence, oh my! She was a complete art of influence. She was given all the time and attention the world ever had. Being the last born of all creation she had to be flawless! She needed to be formed well BECAUSE SHE WAS FOR A GLOBAL INFLUENCE with a definition. She is to be not just any kind of woman. Not the woman who fights with her strength to get her heads up(money, love acceptance etc) which many ladies of today fall prey, but one that fights in her tenderness and her God guiding intiutions to creatively hold her head up high. Her influence in the world would be so strong that she constantly needs to know who she is to always do what is right. But she fell, and made us all fell and that was when women lost their quality, and good selves to everything demeaning- as sex and immoral tools, broken hearters, divorcees, single mothers and the major groups found in the psychiatric hospitals with the same diagnoses – Depression. Its an obvious redefinition and a close to nothing.
Amongst all creation, oh reader reader, are women not the fairest amongst all? Are they not a great significance every creature yearns to taste the life and creativity in her? Are their breast not the husbands satisfaction, are their vaginas not the passage of life? Are their words not soothing? Are their appearance not breathtaking? What of the curves? are they not a pleasurable sight to behold? Then why do we turn and bruise something that brings us so much joy and hapiness in life?
Is it that women were formed to be demeaning and seen as sex tools and emotional toys that men can easily flaunt on? Or the dafter species who always trade their priceless selves for a price less their worth? I won’t be suprised.
I always ask myself, why must a woman strip almost naked before an advert or a business can go viral. Why does she have to be an object of sex for something that has its no relation? Why not the men? Why do they have themselves almost covered but cant be said same of the women? Or they are paid more for stooping so low?
Now enough of the throwbacks and the seeming blame games. But honestly, it has never been the fault of no one but from ourselves – The Women. We have been our own problems and what ever we are facing today because of some deceptions we fell prey and some decisions we took in the light of those deceptions which have redefined and restated our core virtues in this life, erasing what we have known from old.
Gone were the good old days a woman took pride in the Akan name “AKETEESIA”(a descent girl), “AWURABA”( a lady) and “OBAAPA”(a good woman) and virginity was without shame. You dare not touch any part of her because she upholds all her body parts with much respect, Humble learners and never hovering around men but the later around the former. Was it not so beautiful and pure? Dont you miss it too? Ah! The good old days!
But its unfortunate, that We have been available for everything degrading. Because we have lost track of our definition, we are given different alternatives to choose from if we really want to belong. Has it ever occurred to us, why companies always use women for their adverts? Have we asked ourselves why most companies put woman at their front positions? – are we not of a great influence hence the seek out? It should tell us how great our influence can be, and how we can affect the world if we can stop giving ourselves to cheap definitions and affect the right way.
Some girlfriends sadly take on their boyfriends definition of who his ideal woman should be, and they go a long way of dressing against their usual self and doing crazy stuff just to make a man happy. They become the human puppys whom men can shout on and still cuddle them because they have nothing they stand for save what their masters does. Human pets whose presence makes sexual healing always possible with good foods! Then within moments, she would be bounced back with tons of insults, with every word forming a new worthless feeling in her. Then because of a failure to make one man happy, the world is as good as a cemetary. We bury ourselves and our potentials. We bury our generations yet unborn. We bury everything good that is only found in us – everything.
At the work place, we allow bosses to look down on our intelligece and capabilities to have affairs with us. Using us to cause strife, hurts in marriages, divorces, jealousies, divisions, wrath amongst the sisterhood, depriving children of their hapiness. Will we ever go scort free?
We just have no idea, what we are incurring on ourselves. Are we not “mad” we are being used? Are we not concerned, why we must always use our bodies for jobs and promotions though we have all what it takes to even sit on the chair of the Chief Executive Officer?
Dont get it twisted. I am not a Ghanaian Feminist. I am a “mad” black woman with the desire to cause women to know who they were made to be, to take their places in God.
We were made to be the “lights” of the world. Epitomes of beauty, wells of tenderness, creativity and wisdom to always bring hapiness whereever we find ourselves. Christ loving, helpers of men, wise home builders, mentors and coaches, intelligent and creative managers, exotic wives and sophisticating women who use their sophistication to influence the world and not sophocated the world.
Whose fault is it, that we have lost our true definition? Whose fault is it that we are not respected and giving opportunities in government and top businesses but only the few men can intimidate are allowed on the table of men? Whose fault is that that a woman’s intelligence and perspective have always been taken for granted, in the name of intuitions? Whose fault is it?
Is it not ourselves, when we allow the vain things of the world to blow us in to every hole? Who won’t take a woman who has no firm grip of her identity for granted?
I am a medical personel, and i meet people everyday. Out of which 70% are women with almost 60% out of the 70, not educated, single mothers, who are divorced because their husbands see them worthless, as they have nothing life to offer them since they are “dead” to their own selves. Some come to the hospital to recieve cheap medical attention and according to their pocket and anything above their budget, they are willing to let their wards die.
I take time to interrogate them and the findings have always been the same amongst these group – their husbands or partners won’t give them the money for the child’s medical attention. Really? Okay so what can you do to help? I ask and its amazing how they speak in the same unison with a kind of face that sometimes pisses me off – we are not working!
Why won’t a man look down on such a woman who sees her whole life revolving around a man? Men are responsible for the women they take into their lives and impregnates but it doesn’t mean everything is on them. Men yearns for helpers, thats why we were made. A woman is a helper, a support not only to relieve them of their strong sexual urges, but to girde themselves also and do something with their lives and live if as if the man was not around. Any man will never love and will always reject a woman of such definition irrespective of her beauty.
But there’s always a way to revert the wrongs. And I found the solution no where near feminists and their Beijin equality perspective. Not from any hard core ideology or philosophy but a simple revelation of women getting tired of their long-taken-glory and seeking them back again on their knees. Wait, before you disagree with me.
Yes, nothing can bring back our exact definition and everything we have lost save Christ. It can never be restored by the huge layers of foundations. It can never be restored through education; it totally doesn’t define us. Its can never be restored because you have a good background. Not through your succeeding profession, nor the good marriage. Its a fight with no physical background! It has its roots from the spiritual and must be tackled from there. Then after the seeking, we need wisdom to live, to avoid falling again.
Eve brought the doom but its up to us to revert it in our lives. And its a restoration only God and His power can bring. Enough of the abuse. Enough of the sufferings. Enough of the insults. We need to be defined again!
Let’s drop the pretence, the self-sufficiency attitudes and the coverups we make for the emptiness inside of us and go back to finding the real definition of womanhood.
This appeal, is to all ladies. If we destroyed ourselves, we can build ourselves. We just need to accept it, go back to creator and He will take it from there.
I am happy to say, that i am a proud Lady of God’s definition! I am a khayil! I am sophisticated!
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(C) eunice Godbless 2016